Thursday, August 11, 2011
How to deal with difficult people
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As humans we all have unique brains. We grow up loading these brains with beliefs and knowledge from what we perceive and experience. When we communicate with someone ,we use this knowledge to judge and see how well they fit in our life as a relative, friend, colleague etc.We cannot generalize as we alone have the capacity to change given the time and circumstances. But we need to understand the two types of people that we face in this journey and make our choices consciously to get closer to our goals.
The Good Guys
They are our mentors and supporters/friends. These are the people who will and have stayed with you throughout the roller coaster times of our lives. They know what we really are and will always coordinate and help. They care for us and will think about our future more than we do. Never ignore them but pay attention to their every word .When you have to do something against their advice, explain them patiently why you are doing it that way. Thank them at every opportunity.
The Bad Guys
We all know who they are. Identifying them in some cases is easy but in most cases they are as twisted as their tongues. As they try to manipulate and control our lives we might not know it unless we become their victim once. But if that repeats, then only you are to be blamed for. This type cannot keep their mind still even for a minute but when it comes to suggest others they try to be a Veda Vyasa or Jesus. All they need is one shake of the hand and they know how to pull you in to the deepest nonsense.
If you gave up drinking alcohol and you are following a healthy diet. a phony might say ,as long as you eat and drink moderately you can eat and drink anything .Or if you are spiritual enlightened and you go to the church every day, a phony might say, you need not go to a church or a temple at all as long as your realize the god inside you.
We will come across both these types of people in our lives. So stay away from those who try to Control and Manipulate and live with those that Coordinate and Help. A snake no matter how well you feed and pet will bite you some day or the other. Never compromise your values and beliefs just to be accepted by a bad bunch. Neither should we fight with them nor should we do something just to prove our point. If we do,we will lose the vision for our future and will waste time which your point proved cannot buy back. Stay focused on the goals you have set for yourself in the various spaces as explained in the previous article, and live with those who share your vision and you will even inspire the second type to change.